HEALTHY FAMILY CONNECTIONS

Out of the Box Thinking for Family Success


with Neil D. Brown

HEALTHY FAMILY CONNECTIONS



Healthy Family Connections is sponsored by NeilDBrown.com

Our mission is to empower parents, teens and couples in every family in the U.S. and beyond with skills for healthy interpersonal connections. It’s a mission we can achieve by engaging people, one conversation at a time, and providing ways to upgrade the dynamics of their interactions. Our motto is "out-of-the-box solutions for family success.”

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Description

HEALTHY FAMILY CONNECTIONS addresses the many dilemmas facing parents, couples and kids, offering out of the box solutions that empower listeners to confidently meet their parenting challenges. Being a family in our era is challenging under the best of circumstances. Parents contend with a culture in transition and competing ideas for parenting. Neil Brown, author of parenting hit “Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle,” is a master family therapist with a talent for providing clarity amidst the confusion, addressing common concerns as well as serious problems.

  • What To Expect From the Healthy Family Connections Podcast

    Released on November 8, 2016 Duration: 00:05:40

    In this first podcast, Neil gives context for this podcast series. We all want our families to be healthy and happy. We aren’t always prepared for the inevitable challenges to creating this health and happiness. This podcast provides practical guidance for creating, and sustaining, healthy dynamics in your family, dealing with the way the world is changing around us and the uniqueness each of us brings to our family.

  • How Much Screen Time is Healthy?

    Released on November 8, 2016 Duration: 00:05:19

    Our question in this podcast comes from Jess, from Oakland, California. Jess asks, “How can we set aside screen time, without constantly arguing about it?” Neil provides a way to think about screen time and how to deal effectively with the behaviors that surround it.

  • Sisters Who Won’t Get Along

    Released on November 15, 2016 Duration: 00:11:02

    Family gatherings are the hallmark of the holidays. If there are sibling issues in our families, the holidays can be a time when they surface and we may feel anxiety about this. In this episode Neil gives insight and instruction to the mother of two teenage+ daughters who won’t get along.

  • Stop The Fight And Watch Your Relationship Grow…

    Released on November 23, 2016 Duration: 00:11:44

    In this podcast Neil answers a question posed by Anna, asking how to maintain her “adult side” when she finds herself in a heated argument with her husband. Neil deals with fighting at the personal and the relationship level and gives solid advice for how to get through emotionally painful situations

  • What To Do With A Chronically Lying Child

    Released on November 29, 2016 Duration: 00:14:02

    Neil responds in this episode to a question about lying and developing trust and honesty in a child who has chronically lying behavior. You’ll learn a perspective that will empower you to be a parent skilled in helping your kid to develop honesty - in a way that is practical and authentic for both you and your kid.

  • Helping Your Depressed Teenager

    Released on December 6, 2016 Duration: 00:08:54

    In this episode, Helping Your Depressed Teenager, Neil addresses a question for Tracy, a mother in Victoria, Australia, concerning a child who says “he doesn’t want a life.”

  • My Inlaws Are In Our Business

    Released on December 14, 2016 Duration: 00:09:48

    The focus in this episode is about setting and holding healthy boundaries in families. Thanks to Jeremy, of Aptos, California, for asking an honest question about a situation that comes up all the time. My Inlaws are in my Business.

  • Ending the Teacher-Teen Control Battle

    Released on December 20, 2016 Duration: 00:13:45

    Thanks to a question from Jessica in Gainesville, Virginia, Neil expands the control battle strategy conversation beyond the family environment to a middle school classroom, demonstrating step-by-step how “The Talk,” key in transforming control battles in families, can also be used successfully by teachers with their students.

  • Help! My Teenager Won’t Do His Schoolwork!

    Released on December 27, 2016 Duration: 00:12:05

    Shannon of Santa Cruz, California, asks what to do about a teenager who won’t do his homework! Neil provides insight into potential reasons for this which could require additional support, such as ADHD or other situations, and provides a strategy for empowering a teen to develop the ability to embrace challenge and take ownership of their own success.

  • Setting Limits With Your Special Needs Teen

    Released on January 3, 2017 Duration: 00:11:22

    Neil responds to a question posed by Jennifer of Oslo Norway, who asks how to best parent her teen who has been diagnosed with autism after a “break-down.”

  • Parental Burnout - End It and Thrive

    Released on January 14, 2017 Duration: 00:11:23

    This week’s question is from April of Santa Cruz, California. April is asking “when should your wants and needs overrule your kid’s wants and needs?”… Neil gives practical tips for doing just that. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you de-termine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • My Highly Anxious Daughter

    Released on January 21, 2017 Duration: 00:11:05

    This week’s question is from Jennifer of San Francisco, California. Her question is about her youngest child who, different from her older siblings, seems especially anxious and angry. There are lots of pieces to this scenario and Neil addresses them with actionable advice. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • How to Raise a Strong Minded Child

    Released on January 24, 2017 Duration: 00:09:09

    Jasiri of San Jose, California asks, “What are appropriate and effective methods of discipline for outspoken, independent and highly intelligent 6-8 year olds?” and Neil gives context for the question itself and a learning approach for such a spirited child to develop the skill of cooperation without making her gifts wrong. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Active Gifted Kids

    Released on February 1, 2017 Duration: 00:09:52

    Are we being picky if we require our gifted straight “A” son to get physical exercise? In this episode Neil discusses the importance of physical activity and setting limits with gifted kids, an excellent question from Marie of Dallas, Tex-as. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • How To Raise A Spiritually Aware Child

    Released on February 11, 2017 Duration: 00:11:19

    This episode is focused on a question from Priyal from India, who is currently living in Iowa City, Iowa, and it’s one Neil never anticipated being asked. Priyal asks, “How do you help a child establish a relationship with God? How do you make him or her spiritually aware? And at what age?” Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Staying Connected With Your Teenager

    Released on March 6, 2017 Duration: 00:10:07

    In this episode, Neil addresses a question from Lisa, of Aptos California. Lisa’s 15 year old son spends a lot of time avoiding being at home and being with his parents, saying his parents are boring. She wants to know what she can do about this. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Helping Emotionally Abused Adult Children

    Released on March 9, 2017 Duration: 00:10:31

    In this episode, Mike of Salinas, is worried for his 39 year-old daughter. He’s concerned about the possibility of emotional abuse in her relationship with her 55 year-old boyfriend. Mike asks Neil how to intervene without causing further problems. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Healthy Expectations for your Depressed Teenager

    Released on March 15, 2017 Duration: 00:13:19

    Healthy Expectations for your Depressed Teenager Should a parent lower expectations if their teen is dealing with mental health Issues? Let’s say you’ve already tried some combination of therapy, wilderness experiences, a residential treatment center, psychiatry, medicine, and your teen is still depressed and doesn’t want to go to school, complaining of head-ache, stomach ache, fatigue etc. Will requiring your kid to go to school cause them to get even worse? Should you excuse their absence from school, or should you let them suffer the consequences of an unexcused absence? What’s the best way to be a good, responsible parent and have the best out-come for your kid? This question goes to the very heart of successfully treating depression in teenagers. Listen in for actionable advice for what you as a parent can do. Sign up to get your free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are in a normal power struggle or a more destructive control battle - Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Turn Self-doubt & Burnout into Empowered Parenting

    Released on March 22, 2017 Duration: 00:16:43

    In this episode, Tracy of Victoria, Australia, wants to know how to deal with her 16 yr. old son who wants to be treated like a young adult yet isn’t managing his responsibilities. Neil addresses this question by helping listeners understand how parental self-doubt and burnout undermine empowered parenting and the ability to set healthy limits. Neil then inspires listeners to turn 3 critical causes of self-doubt and burnout into empowered parenting. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Don’t get Stopped by your Arguing Teen

    Released on April 4, 2017 Duration: 00:17:38

    At a recent presentation to middle school parents, parents wanted real solutions to dealing with aggressive pushback from their teenagers. In this podcast Neil shows listeners how to deal with four common forms of teen pushback and gives parents the critical skills to avoid Control Battles and Parental Burnout and set their teenagers on a healthy path forward. Sign up for our weekly newsletter and receive a free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are having a power struggle or a control battle. Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • How to be a perfectly imperfect family

    Released on April 18, 2017 Duration: 00:09:55

    Raising successful kids means teaching our kids to be comfortable with failure. In this episode Neil finds the concept of personal vulnerability emerging in many places and all pointing to the same thing, vulnerability, courage, and success all go together. Neil introduces listeners to a book by parents, Dale and Monica Vernon, How Imperfect Parents Lead Great Families as an example of embracing our vulnerable, imperfect selves as critical to our growth and success as parents. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • How we can all feel listened to

    Released on April 25, 2017 Duration: 00:10:55

    A former client helps Neil learn that he needs to not take clients’ understanding basic concepts for granted. In this episode, Neil takes the basic concept of “listening” that many of his clients are struggling with, and breaks it down so we can all understand and be understood in a more productive way. Then he challenges listeners to take the one week test. Sign up to get your free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are in a normal power struggle or a more destructive control battle - Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • High Performing Moms Need High Performing Families

    Released on May 3, 2017 Duration: 00:10:12

    Professional Moms often struggle to get the support they need from their families as well as from their employers. Neil shares some of the insights from Mogul, Mom, and Maid by Liz O’Donnell as she explores the challenges of woman in the home and work worlds. And while the challenges of High Performing Moms are plentiful, Neil offers down to earth advise for avoiding the pitfalls and getting the support Moms need and deserve. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • 13 Reasons Why Not

    Released on May 10, 2017 Duration: 00:11:28

    Neil dives into the discussion of the pros and cons of the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why and then offers parents some helpful advise for addressing it. As usual, Neil presents some interesting points of view and doesn’t mince words. Sign up to get your free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are in a normal power struggle or a more destructive control battle - Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Teenage Summertime Success

    Released on May 20, 2017 Duration: 00:14:50

    In this episode, Neil helps parents use summertime planning with their teen-agers to teach planning skills and help them utilize their time away from school to their best advantage. Neil offers some great ideas, some valuable resources, and some great ways to engage the parent-teen discussion. Sign up to get your free checklist to help you determine whether you and your teen are in a normal power struggle or a more destructive control battle - Enter your email address here >> http://eepurl.com/bjMAiX Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Stop the Parent-Teen Chore Battle

    Released on May 26, 2017 Duration: 00:18:13

    Neil answers a question from Al of Chattanooga Tennessee who is struggling to get his teenagers and preteen to do their chores without a fight. Neil explains why chores are important to child and teen development and reviews some of the common mistakes parents often make. Neil gives Al and all parents a strategy to shift out of the chore struggle and put parents, kids and chores on a healthy path forward. He challenges all parents, grandparents and child and teen caregivers to make chores a positive learning experience for kids. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Am I Helping or Enabling my Young Adult Child?

    Released on May 31, 2017 Duration: 00:18:07

    Young Adults are living at home more commonly than ever before and parents need to know how to support their young adult kids without enabling them or supporting their bad habits. In this episode Neil offers great tips for knowing the difference as he answers a question from a mother in Culver City, California concerned about her son who lives at home and doesn’t seem to be making progress in his career. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Are Psychotherapists Disempowering Parents?

    Released on June 8, 2017 Duration: 00:16:51

    Neil answers a question from a Mom who wonders whether therapy is helping her depressed daughter or not. Mom is walking on eggshells wondering what she’s supposed to do. Neil explains some of the causes of depression and the challenges facing teen girls in particular these days. He then goes on to show how individual therapy too often disempowers parents and how a family approach can be far more successful and enduring. Neil offers the Mom a plan to get the right kind of help and off of the eggshells. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • How to create Lasting Change in Families

    Released on June 18, 2017 Duration: 00:16:10

    Marissa of Seattle Washington has tried lots of techniques to get her two boys, ages 8 and 10 to cooperate, but nothing ever seems to work. In this week’s podcast, Neil explains the two types of change and how to use the right one at the right time. Then he shows Marissa how to create lasting change in her family. Hint: We should be using one kind of change every day.

  • Should Parents be Happy While Their Kids are Doing Poorly?

    Released on June 29, 2017 Duration: 00:13:44

    Stefania, the mother of a 17yr old reports that her husband is so distraught over their son’s behavior that it is ruining their lives and wants to know if she’s wrong for wanting her own happiness. In this episode Neil explains how parents’ feelings can overwhelm kids and can interfere with their ability to learn and grow from their experiences. In the end he prescribes happiness for Stefania and her husband. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • The Hidden Relationship Killer

    Released on July 6, 2017 Duration: 00:15:03

    In this podcast, Neil explains the powerful impact of the Negative Cycle on relationships. He shares the story of his work with “James and Lisa” to show how effective therapy works by focusing on ending the Negative Cycle. Neil challenges listeners to look at their own participation in negative cycles and alternative ways to engage with their partners. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Setting the school year up for success

    Released on August 8, 2017 Duration: 00:10:58

    In this podcast, Neil responds to a Dad who is stuck between backing off and letting his son fail, and fighting and arguing to get him to do his work. Neil shows this Dad and all parents how to set the school year up for success by teaching goal setting and planning skills to our kids. Neil emphasizes the importance of teaching our kids the skills they will need to be successful adults. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Moving Beyond Parent-Child Temperament

    Released on August 15, 2017 Duration: 00:17:33

    In this podcast, Neil responds to a Mom who wants to establish rules and limits with her 16 year old that haven’t previously been in place. The catch is, her daughter is strong willed and Mom anticipates her daughter feeling like she is losing something she already has and fighting and arguing. Neil discusses the issue of innate temperament in kids and how to help them understand and appreciate themselves yet not be limited buy their temperament. Here’s the catch, parents have to grow beyond their comfort zones as well. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Is giving up easily about self-confidence?

    Released on August 22, 2017 Duration: 00:15:10

    In this episode, a father wants to know if his son who gives up easily is suffering from low self-confidence and what to do about it. Neil responds to this dad by reminding him that the way we frame a problem will decide how we deal with it. Neil offers a way to think about the problem that will let Dad help his son develop a “growth mindset”. Neil ends the podcast by challenging all parents to ask themselves if they are setting a good example for their families to be life long learners. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Be yourself, save your family?

    Released on August 29, 2017 Duration: 00:12:58

    In this episode, Neil responds to a question from a mother struggling in control battles with several kids at the same time. Neil cautions this mother about her likely parental burnout and offers her a new path forward. Neil explains the difference between being “other-person oriented” and “self-oriented” and how the former invites resistance and the latter invites healthy child and adolescent development. Neil explains how and why self-orientation is a positive personal quality distinct from selfishness and self-centeredness, which are negative personal qualities. Neil role-plays examples of the differences in approache that might just sound painfully familiar. Neil ends with a challenge to all of us to look inward and ask ourselves where we are other-person oriented and where we are self-oriented and to work to become more self-oriented selves. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Achieve Emotional Intimacy by Meeting Emotional Needs

    Released on September 11, 2017 Duration: 00:18:22

    In this episode, Neil responds to mother who feels no one in her family is getting their emotional needs met. Neil offers the listener a deep understanding of emotional needs, and why many people don’t get theirs met or know how to meet the needs of others. Neil offers some powerful tools for addressing emotional needs even under the most difficult circumstances and he includes some realistic scenarios as well. Neil ends the podcast with a challenge for all of us to focus on and provide validation to others, and then write and let him know what happens. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • It’s Time To Move From Surviving To Thriving

    Released on September 20, 2017 Duration: 00:17:08

    In this episode, Neil responds to a mother who struggles parenting her 8 yr. old and is riddled with guilt and anxiety. Neil helps this Mom understand the role that childhood trauma and abuse is playing in her life, and how to shift out of survival mode, to a place of health and recovery. In this dynamic podcast, Neil invites the listener to examine how they were “programmed” in childhood and invites them to “upgrade their program”. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Sibling Relationships Matter

    Released on September 26, 2017 Duration: 00:17:12

    In this episode, Neil responds to a mother’s concern that her kids are constantly fighting and being mean to each other. She doesn’t want to referee the fights, but she wants things to change. Neil talks about the critical nature of sibling relationships and how to establish values and behaviors that children and teens will honor. Neil invites listeners to examine whether they are asking enough of their children and teens and challenges everyone to empower their parenting. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Are My Kids Being Bullied?

    Released on October 3, 2017 Duration: 00:16:50

    In this episode, Neil responds to a mother’s concern that her kids don’t have friends. She worries that they are being bullied as she was in school. Neil uses this mother’s question as an opportunity to kick off Bullying Awareness Month. Neil takes a look at what bullying is, where it is, who gets bullied, who bullies, and how we can start to deal with it. He explains that empowered kids are the least likely to bully or be bullied. Neil invites the listener to review their own values and ask if they include respect and support for everyone in the home. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • I’m talking, but nobody’s listening!

    Released on October 10, 2017 Duration: 00:20:37

    In this episode, Neil responds to a mother’s frustration that telling her 21 year old and her 16 year old daughters what she expects is getting her no place. In this episode, Neil helps her find her voice and the self-respect to use it. Neil explains the importance of kids respecting their parents in order to develop self-respect. He reflects on the frequent societal norm of girls and women not being raised to expect their voices to be heard and respected, and he invites listeners to believe in the importance of their voices. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Bullying in middle schools today

    Released on October 18, 2017 Duration: 00:27:04

    In this episode, Neil interviews Dr. Valerie Quandt, Principal of Jordan Middle School in Palo Alto California, on the subject of bullying in middle schools. Dr. Quandt offers her insight into the changes in bullying behavior from the hallways to the social apps. and her awareness of the effect of the changes in the political tone on bullying behavior. The discussion includes who is most vulnerable to bullying or being bullied, what the schools are doing about it, and important steps all parents need to take now. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • The Link Between Bullying, Domestic Violence, and Sexual Harassment

    Released on October 25, 2017 Duration: 00:12:55

    In this episode, Neil relates a coincidence of sitting next to and talking with a psychologist who is an expert in bullying behavior on a plane flight and he relays her message of the importance of secure attachment to healthy empathic behavior in children and teens. Neil then looks at the link between bullying and what often goes on to be sexual harassment in the workplace and domestic violence. Neil looks at how we have to address these issues at every level of our culture, from family culture to school, workplace and political culture. And finally, Neil ends the show with an emphasis on the importance of growing empathy in our culture and how a strong value on empathy would affect every level of our society. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Our Daughter’s Anxiety is Running the Family

    Released on November 1, 2017 Duration: 00:15:06

    In this episode, Neil responds to mother whose 14 year-old daughter suffers from anxiety, yet won’t cooperate with treatment. Parents feel handcuffed setting limits because their daughter gets all A’s in school and they don’t want to add to her stress. Neil identifies the family control battle and offers critical steps the parents can take now. Neil reviews the many sources of stress plaguing teenagers today and challenges us all to look at the ways we avoid addressing critical issues with our kids and reminds us that our teens need us to be positive empowered parents. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • I’m Depressed Thinking About Thanksgiving

    Released on November 8, 2017 Duration: 00:11:32

    In this episode Neil responds to a mother concerned that she’s going to be doing a lot of cooking and entertaining on Thanksgiving, with no family support from her husband or teenagers. Neil uses this mother’s dilemma as an opportunity to help her bring “Team Family” together to make a special day for everyone. In the process Mom learns how to go from a model of supporting and serving to a model of empowerment and leadership. Neil ends with a challenge to all of us to examine the message we’re giving our teenagers. Are we letting them know they’re important and that we need them? Neil invites the listener to ask a teenager for help, and in so doing, gives them the right message. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • Kids Need Emotional Regulation Skills

    Released on November 24, 2017 Duration: 00:14:56

    In this episode Neil responds to a mother struggling with her son whose only way to calm himself down is by playing video games. When parents take his Internet access away, he can become violent. Neil sees that this youngster is struggling with an emotional dysregulation disorder and helps Mom realize the severity of the situation. He then goes on to present a path forward to ending the family Control Battle and get real help for her son. Neil offers that given the severity of the problem, if her son remains violent, that residential treatment should be considered. Neil challenges all of us to examine our emotional regulation skills and how well we’re teaching these skills to our children. Neil offers a family exercise to help everyone become more connected to themselves and each other. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit

  • The 3 Stage Journey from Childhood to Adulthood

    Released on November 29, 2017 Duration: 00:24:50

    In this episode Neil helps the listener see adolescence as a journey with three distinct stages. He describes the developmental tasks of each stage and key parenting objectives and reminds us that young adulthood is the final stage of adolescence. Neil challenges the listener to see adolescents, who are making mistakes or struggling, as needing us and to suspend judgment and help them feel worthwhile and important. Even when setting limits or withholding privileges, we can let them know that it’s a journey and that we want to support them in making it a successful one. Have a question for Neil? Submit it now for discussion on a future episode of The Healthy Family Connections Podcast: http://neildbrown.com/submit